Are you ever worried that you will be investing more effort and time in the wedding than your groom?

You might have heard stories of how grooms take the I-don’t-care approach and take any decisions nonchalantly, and you are afraid that your groom might end up doing the same. But somehow, there is this burning belief that he is not going to be of any help because of his simple-mindedness or easygoing attitude towards any matter

Does the above sound familiar?

Stop there if you are starting to believe the above! Instead of shouldering the whole wedding on your delicate shoulders, here are five reasons why you should try to involve your groom in the decision making.

1. It Might Lead To Unnecessary Miscommunication (And A Tiny Bit Of Anger)

The human mind is very selective when it comes to information and sometimes we may unintentionally communicate an inaccurate piece of information.

For example, you might be entering a bridal boutique to know more about the bridal packages, dishing out all the questions to clarify certain things. You try to communicate the things you heard to your groom, but he might not understand the terminologies that were exchanged between you and the bridal consultant. As you struggle to explain what they mean, a look of utter confusion starts to surface and you can feel the annoyance bubbling in your tummy, like a pot of hot lava. (FYI, this can actually happen to either gender.)

Although some of you have not gone through the above (kudos to you!), at some point in time, you might have experienced something similar, and it isn’t exactly a great feeling either.

However, it doesn’t mean that it is entirely your groom’s fault for not being able to grasp certain concepts. Perhaps there are certain things that he doesn’t understand, which is why it is advisable to hear them from an expert’s point of view!

Solution: Work on a schedule that allows you and your groom to be able to make decisions and work something out. For example, if the both of you are available on a Sunday to visit a bridal boutique, then do so together!

2. Get A Different Perspective On Certain Matters

How often are you able to think rationally when you are undergoing immense amounts of tension and stress? Almost never.

Don’t get us wrong. Weddings are beautiful, but I would be lying if I said that they didn’t come with frustrations and those moments when you need to gorge on ice cream to feel better about yourself. That’s how having your groom in the picture helps you get the support you need. Having your groom with you will allow him to understand the situation and, perhaps, offer a different perspective or even a bigger picture that you were unable to see. At the same time, he gets to understand what you are going through and, therefore, he’ll be able to help you whenever he can.

Solution: Spend a fair bit of time sharing your thoughts with your groom and let him share his opinions about the matter, but keep an open mind!

3. Let Your Partner Have A Sense Of Participation

Imagine that you and your partner just bought a flat in Singapore. Both of you come together to decide on the layout of the house, from the type of wallpaper, to the colours of the bed sheets, and even to the design of the furniture. It is a great feeling when both of you work together towards a mutual decision, because the end result is built on what the both of you want.

Based on experience and talking to some grooms, it is suggested that most of them don’t mind being part of the decision-making process for the wedding, from selecting the bridal boutique to the wedding gowns to the concept of your pre-wedding photography and even to consolidating the wedding guest list. In fact, it makes them feel that the responsibility is split fairly among them and their bride-to-be.

So, let your partner have a sense of participation and make decisions together. Not only will you feel less alone, the both of you will grow to learn more about each other and compromise to come to a conclusion that best fits the both of you.

But, that being said, it doesn’t mean that you have to consult him about every nitty gritty detail. For example, you don’t have to confide in him on every wedding gown you have tried on. You can ask what looks better, but, at the end of the day, you should be confident in what you are wearing. Besides, you are already probably the most beautiful, and that’s all that truly matters.

Solution: Assign a few tasks to your groom, let him take responsibility and trust that he can do a good job! In addition, skip asking too many questions about your wedding gown.

To find out why brides must involve grooms in the process of selecting a wedding gown, read more in the second part of Peiru Teo’s article!

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_{This post was first published on La Belle Couture blog and has been reposted on Executive Lifestyle with the permission of the author. Images from La Belle Couture
Edited by Nedda Chaplin}

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