Admit it. When you are preparing the list of people to invite to your wedding, you have that one wedding guest (or more) who sits right at the back of your mind and is close to being a thorn in your side. You know that he/she has the talent to turn your wedding from a yay to a nay!

Your wish is to not have them as part of the wedding guest-list, but you know that, sometimes, that can’t happen because they are somehow connected to another guest who you want to invite. Not inviting them is as good as poking the eye of an angry dragon.

Sending a wedding invite is harder than solving the world’s most difficult mathematic problem. What’s worse? Calling them personally to check their availability because you need to properly allocate your guests to the right table. And, of course, you secretly wish that the outcome is for them to not be available on your wedding day, but deep inside you know that is unlikely to happen.

We have listed five kinds of guests we hover between inviting and not inviting, and solutions to ensure that they don’t ruin your one and only special day!

Wedding Guest No. 1: The One With A Loudhailer Baby

Sometimes, it isn’t because you dislike this guest, but you are so afraid to invite their whiny children to your wedding. You may have witnessed them screaming the top of their lungs, and making a huge fuss for not having things their way. You may have even seen them shouting at people who don’t worship the ground they walk on, or even throwing things around because…well, they can.

You begin to think that if they are going to pull the above stunts at your wedding. Instead of listening to a melodic live performance, it will be drowned out by the shrill voices of these monster babies, whose energy levels never seem to subside.

You are probably afraid of two things:

1. Watching a child steal your limelight at your wedding.
2. Reprimanding the child in front of your wedding guests and appearing like an unreasonable bride/groom.

What you can do:

Kindly tell your guests to not invite their children because it is a wedding and the last thing you need is to watch a child destroy your big day. They will probably understand where you are coming from and will try to accommodate your needs.


Wedding Guest No.2: The One Who Is Narcissistic (a.k.a Kiasi)

There’s always that one guest who likes to compete and wants to come out tops. They will always have something to flaunt about when you are sharing great news, because it is difficult for them to be in second place. Everything is a competition to them, and the only way to stop them is to let them win.

For example, after such a long time, you finally managed to find the dream wedding gown at a bridal boutique,and you were so happy about it. When you share the news with them, they somehow are able to discuss THEIR choice of outfits and how they got them from this luxurious brand, which is probably a lot more expensive than your outfit! Geeeeezz.

You are probably afraid of two things:

1. Wasting your time listening to things that are of no use.
2. Whipping out your duct tape to…well…tape over their mouths?

What you can do:

Kindly tell him/her that if they manage to not talk about themselves during the wedding, they will be considered the winners of the wedding. Otherwise, they shouldn’t attend your wedding and they should keep that egoistical streak elsewhere, because you don’t have time for that.

Look out for the second part of this article, where we introduce you to the other three guests who you don’t wish to invite to your wedding: the one who is anti-wedding, the know-it-all, and the gossip!

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_{This post was first published on La Belle Couture blog and has been reposted on Executive Lifestyle with the permission of the author. Image from La Belle Couture
Edited by Amber Valencia}

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